Loving and accepting yourself is one of the most important things you’ll ever do.
Real self-love isn’t selfish. It’s not loud or flashy. It’s not about putting yourself above others. It’s about learning to truly accept who you are, even in the quiet moments when no one else is watching.
The difference between self-love and selfishness
A lot of people confuse self-love with being self-centered. But there’s a clear difference. Selfishness is about ignoring others and making everything about you. Self-love is about honoring your needs without disconnecting from the people around you.
When you love yourself, you begin to understand your energy and how to use it wisely. You become more present, more available, and more aligned in the way you show up for others. Being in alignment matters.
Listening to your inner voice
That voice inside your head shapes how you experience life. If it’s always critical or heavy, it’s hard to feel safe in your own skin. This is where a gentle practice like affirmations can help.
Try saying this out loud to yourself:
“I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Notice how it feels. There’s no need to force it. Just let it land. You might feel a shift. You might even struggle to say it. You might not feel anything at all. All are okay. This isn’t about perfection. It’s about coming into a more honest relationship with yourself.
Your body deserves love
Many people grow up with messages that our body needs to be fixed or changed, not necessarily from parents, but from broader societal conditioning. But the truth is, your body has carried you through everything. Every experience, every emotion, every moment. It deserves care, not criticism.
Self-love includes honoring your body. That doesn’t mean loving every part all the time. It means choosing to see your body with kindness, even on the harder days.
You can say to yourself:
“Thank you, body, for supporting me. I choose to love you, even when it feels difficult.”
This kind of love is healing. And over time, it helps you build a stronger connection with your own energy and rhythm.
Letting go of what’s not yours to carry
Sometimes we try to love ourselves, but it just doesn’t land. We repeat the affirmations. We try to soften. But something still feels stuck. That’s often because we’re holding onto unprocessed energy, old beliefs, or inherited patterns that are not even ours to begin with.
This is where energy healing tools like The Emotion Code, The Body Code, and The Belief Code can offer gentle and effective support.
These modalities work by identifying and releasing trapped emotions, energetic imbalances, and subconscious belief systems that keep us feeling stuck, disconnected, or unworthy.
The Emotion Code helps clear emotional energy that may be blocking you from self-love, often rooted in past experiences or trauma.
The Body Code goes deeper by addressing imbalances in the body and energy systems that can affect your sense of safety, worthiness, or connection to your physical self.
The Belief Code works with the subconscious mind to shift limiting beliefs that run beneath the surface, beliefs like “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t deserve love.”
By clearing these blocks, you create more space to actually feel the love and acceptance you’re affirming. It stops being just words and starts becoming your lived truth.
You create space for others when you love yourself
Something beautiful happens when you begin to love and accept yourself. You start creating space for others to do the same. People feel that energy. It’s calm, clear, and deeply inviting.
When you take care of your emotional world and gently clear what isn’t yours, you give others permission to explore their own healing too.
A gentle reminder
Self-love is not a one-time decision. It’s a practice. A process. Some days it will feel easy and natural. Other days it won’t.
That’s okay.
What matters is returning to yourself again and again with softness.
So take a deep breath. Put your hand on your heart. And say these words when you’re ready:
“I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
You don’t need to earn it. You already are it. And that is enough.
Interested in going deeper?
If you feel like something is holding you back from fully experiencing self-love, and you’d like support in identifying what that might be, you may want to explore The Emotion Code, The Body Code, or The Belief Code as part of your healing journey.
These tools can help you uncover what’s beneath the surface, and gently let it go.
When you release what no longer belongs to you, you come home to who you truly are.
If anything in this post has sparked an interest, I have a range of Programs and I'd love to connect with you, when you're ready, to chat about how I can help.
In case no-one has told you recently - you are loved, and you have permission to give yourself love, just as you give others your care and love.
Jeanette, Three Tulips Healing
Certified Emotion Code, Body Code, Belief Code and Angel Reiki Practitioner
